The Deep Rite of Passage of Matrescence
We have replaced what should be a deeply spiritual, emotional and supporting ritual with consumerism. We feel that if we get the right pram, the right clothes and baby wearer, we will be prepared. If we throw a baby shower and buy all the possible things for the coming baby, then it is all right, that means we will be good mothers.
What Nobody Told You About Becoming a Mother
Nobody goes deep to talk about the complex transformation that becoming and being a mother brings, nobody speaks about the inner happenings, about the rich inner life that unfolds inside you, with no voice to speak it or eyes to see it. And that is many times because mothers lack words to describe this immense transformation.
The Paradoxes of Motherhood
Motherhood is messy, it’s chaotic and confusing and for many mothers it can feel like an uprooting from everything they knew to be true. It can contain a multitude of experiences and a whole bag of emotions, seemingly opposite or making no sense.
Becoming a mother comes with paradoxes that turn your world upside down.
Why Understanding Matrescence Helps Your Parenting
A major part of matrescence is the birth of a new you. I bet nobody told you when you had your routine check ups in pregnancy or when you walked the maternity doors: Hey, you’re about to birth not just a baby, but also a new you. That takes time and you’re allowed to find it hard. You need all the support you can get.
Matrescence 101
A short intro to a complex transformation: Matrescence. What is it? Becoming a mother is a culturally unsupported fact and the huge shift a mothergoes through goes by unnoticed, kept quiet. Putting a name to this very real rite of passage is the first step to finding meaning in your experience, mama.